Today is my mother’s birthday, she passed away in 1998 and I knew that I wanted to put a picture of her and I up on my BlackPlanet and Facebook pages to “honor” her in my own way. I wanted to share with you some tips for memorializing your loved ones with honor.
“Memories are life and energy to the spirits” – June Morris (wrote this on my wall after seeing the picture of me and my mom)
At the time of her passing, I put together a great video which memorialized the life that was documented in pictures, videos and her favorite music. I was surprised that while I was putting the video together, people were telling me to wait for another time when the grief passes. I am so happy that I did not listen to them because it helped me to celebrate her life and stay uplifted with the vivid memories fresh in my mind that I still find comfort in to this day. I also enjoy sharing videos, pictures and mementos with people who have not met her to keep her memory alive.
Here are some tips for memorializing your loved one with honor. Please feel free to share with the community some of your own tips and the loved ones you want to honor:
- Pray and Meditate on their spirit.
Miss me, but let me go
When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me
I want no rites in a gloom filled room
Why cry for a soul set free
Miss me a little – but not too long
And not with your head bowed low
Remember the love that we once shared
Miss me – but let me go
For this is a journey that we must all take
And each must go alone
It’s all a part of the Master’s plan
A step on the road to home
When you are lonely, and sick of heart
Go to the friends we know
And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds
Miss me – but let me go
*Decorate a t-shirt, create a quilt from their clothes or make a blanket that you can wear/use when you need to be comforted and feel close to your loved one.
* Create a memory book or box of mementos.
* Create a video
* At Christmas, hang a stocking or a special personalized ornament in honor of your loved one.
* Create a web site about your loved one or leave a tribute to your loved one on a site for the grieving.
* Create a wreath of showdowbox decorated with memories and possessions of your loved one.
* Do needlework or another craft project symbolizing your love for the deceased.
* Donate flowers for your church on your loved one’s birthday, passing date or special holiday.
* Donate time, money or books to support groups for grieving parents, spouses or others.
* Draw paint or sculpture with colors and textures that reflect your feelings.
* Have a sketch drawn of your loved one.
* Make an audio cassette of songs that remind you of your loved one.
* Start a special flower garden or plant a tree — add a sign that says “in memory of…” etc.
* Write down the thoughts and memories you have of your loved one, thier life, important events you shared with them and the love they gave.
Stevie Wonder at Luther Vandross’ funeral ( “I Won’t Complain”)