One of the best concepts I have ever come across I read in a book called “LOVE and RESPECT” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. All my marriage I was trying to figure out what to call my need to get my wife when I say, “Honey come watch this”, to just come and look and not start a conversation. The concept is called Shoulder to Shoulder. It stems from the belief that men and women have different needs (imagine that). Women while I do understand your need to get what you need to say off your chest by downloading on your men, we are not talking about that now. We are talking about the need every man has to just have someone near him. Eve was not an accident but a gift to Adam.
We are talking about something that could change your relationship in a matter of days that you can do. When he is doing something that he enjoys doing or has to do, just sit there with him while he does it and say nothing. I know it sounds difficult and you are even now saying it will not work, but it will. Even when men sit with each other we do not have the deep feeling provoked conversations women and girls do. We are wired completely different. But we do enjoy just being in the company of others. Who better to do that with than the women in our lives (IF they will just sit there and say nothing). I will not get into the specifics as to the psychology of it all, because I am not a psychologist. I just know it works. These have been some of the best times I have ever spent with my wife.