Marriage Is A Convenant, Not A Contract
Hey what can I say except… yep… Thank God It’s Friday…. You see as a wife and mother of six beautiful children. Yes, I did say six and they all came from God through my body with my husband’s help. I am so happy its Friday. You see the day after Friday is Saturday and on Saturdays I don’t have to get up soo early. And, on Sundays, I can get up later still because the service I attend at my church is later than the time school, work, ballet, tap, soccer, football, and all the other things in my life begin. So guess what …. I Thank The Lord Its Friday….
As you can guess, my life is a little busy, just a little busy, I mean whose isn’t with six kids and a wonderful dutiful God-fearing husband (ok, so he paid me to say that – smile). But the most important thing to me is that I am walking this walk with God the way He wants me and you know that is not always easy. But, it is joyful and peaceful. Because God tells us in His word that His joy is our strength and He will give us peace if we just ask. Now that is not to say it’s not hard and demanding. I mean God’s standards are so very far above anything I would ever imagine for myself or anyone else for that matter.
Take this for example, God calls marriage a covenant – a covenant – A COVENANT?! He doesn’t call marriage a contract – social or legal. Marriage is a covenant made to God in the presence of all of those guests at your wedding. Made to God, made to God – hey, what about my spouse didn’t I make a promise to them? What most of us don’t realize is that when we agree to marry someone is when we make the promise to them, but when we actually say our vows we are entering into a covenant with God.
And, you know what else, God says it is better to not enter into a covenant with Him than to enter and break it….. Ok that is a high standard and I don’t know if I want to do that especially when I am unable to sleep at night because of all the snoring going on in my house. And, see not sleeping makes me very cranky. And, a cranky mommy of six loud obnoxious children (see what you start to call them when you have no sleep) is not why I signed up for marriage in the first place…. So, yes God’s standard is so much higher than I would place on myself or anyone else.
But, I know God has my best interest at heart and sometimes I do not! Because I want to see my children always as beautiful and wonderfully made and my husband as my hero, sexy provider and protector, I do what God asks of me and look for His joy in my everyday walk and ask for peace that surpasses all understanding. And with that all I can say is THANK GOD IT’S FRIDAY!!!!!
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I hear you when you say marriage is a covenant but you still gotta sign that covenant oops !! I mean that marriage license. So that in tell means its a CONTRACT. Yes marriage is a contract because if you break that contract guess what you’re gonna have to pay. I’m glad you’re able to sleep late on saturdays because according to the word the sabbath is saturday.
sharnell i am about to get married and your words bring into my heart the understanding that if i am to marry this man i need to know i am not breaking this covenant for nothing.
Greetings Mrs. Blevins,
First of all, God bless you and your family.
I am a 30 years-old single African-Am. female with no kids… I have always felt that I will be married before I have a family. Coming from a very weak family structure background… I want different for my life and I wait on God to send me the God-fearing husband he has for me.
However, it seems that most women, that are getting married, are those with kids either out of wed-lock or from previous relationships… this is crazy to me.
I am living the way of God, but, it seems like it is the wrong way… when we know that it is the best!!
Thank you for your article.
Thank you for your story. I am a mother of seven and it is not easy. I do the best I can but it seems like I am doing it by myself. My husband seems to have stepped back from God and the load is on me to make sure everything is done church, house work, bills, doctors appointments, errands,sports etc. I don’t have enough time in a day and on top of all that he comes home and complains when something is not done. What am I doing wrong.
Good work and great subject! I enjoyed reading your article Sharnell. Surely you are a writer–a good writer should read a lot (and you do), a good writer is interested in the subject matter (without question you are) and a good writer puts her heart into her writing and relates to her readers (and you have done both). Congrats on establishing your blog and dedicating yourself to sharing your knowledge and experiences. I look forward to reading your thought provoking subject matter of your articles.
Hoorah!!
Vanessa
Thanks Sharnell for the reminder of the covenant that was made to God. We need to remember God is the author and finisher of our faith. I will share this with others. There are a lot of marriages going through these days. Thanks again for the encouragement. Keep letting the “light” shine through you.
Sharnell,
Wow…Look @ GOD!!! I am proud of you VIRTUOUS WOMAN, WIFE,& MOTHER!!! I am inspired by your words. I am glad you received what God had been putting in your heart…about writing. I look forward to reading more.
It is about time I am so proud of you it was great what took you so long cant wait until the next one my god knows what he wants from us even if we dont happy you got it may he always bless you and your family Praise be to god
always
mom
Sharnell, Congratulations on your decision to write. I have seen your family and you all are one beautiful, lively bunch full of God’s spirit. It is amazing what couples can do when they are committed to God, family and community. I attended your wedding aand I was impressed by the love you had for my newphew Clifton. Too often people have large weddings and get married for all the wrong reasons, but I could see and sense that you were in love and wanted to share a life with your husband. You are bleses to get such a devoted and wonderful man. He, Itoo, is committed to his family. I think it would be great if you wrote or you Cliff would write several articles sharing with young couples how you make your family work. Today, it is tough on everyne especially youg couples. We all could learn that success requires team work, sacrifice and unconditional love. I look forward to reading your articles. You make already know that I have written political articles since l990. Most of them have been published in African Ame newspapers. I have written articles each week since 1990 – 200l. After that I have written Articles whenever I felt the need. Like you , I did not have a writing background. I had never written an article before my first one was published. Of course, as an attorney I had to write legalize but that is different. I know for a fact that God woke me up at three in the morning and guided my hand. Bye for now.
Aunt Cookie
I love this post. I wish other people were aware that marriage is a covenant and not just a combination of names, policies, and insurance. I wish other people knew that God meant marriage to be between a man and a woman. Today in this world people are more concerned with what they feel, who they think they are, and what they want, when they don’t realize that like you said one may not always have there best interest at heart. Many Many people are aware that on a day to day basis they get discouraged and don’t know what to decide or which way to go. But they don’t realize that the answer is not within them but that they need to seek God for answers they don’t understand. My point is with all the lack of knowledge in ones self people still tend to find understanding in other people who aren’t sure of themselves. This is very flawed. I hope that one who reads this post on marriage is enlighten to the fact that God intended we people to conduct ourselves in a fashion that is with our best interest at heart . God is not flawed so His ways are perfect. When we try to reconfigure information and laws and standards we mess up. Simply because we’re not perfect, no one is, and we sometimes don’t have the knowledge to obtain correct order from God.