Comments on: Can The Ladies Pay Sometimes?

By: courtneyR

courtneyR — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 07:34:08 +0000

Speak about it,communicate,what you two are doing.If the man invites you out,he,should pay,if the woman invites you out,she should pay,if the two of you end up in a realtionship,switch off.Or,pay together.Whatever works.Just dont use someone.Make them feel like you are not taking advantage.Good grief.

By: SexyMoneyMaker

SexyMoneyMaker — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 01:23:11 +0000

Well the woman right here has no problem doing for myself or paying…actually I’ve encouraged it many times…besides a woman hates to have that “I own him something. feeling going on…we can go dutch as well thats not a problem either.

By: dcoady313

dcoady313 — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 00:35:07 +0000

I completely agree with this particular article. Whoever said that the man should be paying for everything is really full of it. I believe in reciprocity as well. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it should be split 50/50, but SOME RECIPROCITY WOULD BE GREAT!! Otherwise, I will be inclined to think that the woman is just not interested and she is just using me for a free ride.

I definitely don’t mind paying for the first few dates at all. But if the relationship involves into something much greater, then I expect the lady to put forth more effort. I don’t care if it is 50/50, 70/30, heck even 75/25 I’ll take. The bottom line is, a relationship requires a two way street straight across the board. PERIOD. Any woman that feels that the man should be doing EVERYTHING and she doesn’t do ANYTHING but look good is conceited and full of herself.

By: Vertigo2001

Vertigo2001 — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 03:16:47 +0000

No, men shouldnt pay all the time, cause you have women out here who think men owe them something lol. ( and vice-versa)

By: BLAS1AN06

BLAS1AN06 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:01:22 +0000

I disagree that the man should pay EVERY time because that’s his part in “being a man”. There are more important things to do to show appreciate for your women then breaking out a freaking debit card. emotional support is more important than a dang meal. There shouldnt be guid lines on what a man and women should do for each other. Live your life and enjoy each other in what makes you happy. don’t set boundaries. I have no problem taking a women out but I sure dont have a problem with her taking me out either. It never was a big deal in any of my relationships. there are plenty ways to show a women appreaciation outside of a resteraunt.

By: BrothafromChicago

BrothafromChicago — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:54:15 +0000

yea @ Dainty this is my new 1.

@ DMY19151 tell these “herb” cats how it is. They don’t know what it is to be a man because they keep messing with these women with “young girl” minds. This article and DMY19151, said yea you can let you lady pay SOMETIMES. But I should be a “choice”. Saying they want 50/50 but not realizing that thats part of the MANS 50 right there–which is treating his lady. If you a dude that NEEDs a woman to pay, then my friend you need to hold your weight. Its part of being a man.

@ IndioLatino, that was silly on your part my dude. You young cats spend your time looking for “puppy love”. You said “But if she’s a person that has that standard of letting the man pay then she’s just out to take your money and use you”. ====LOL YOUNG CATS yal have so much to learn. If you were willing to go out with her, it was obvious that you were ready to spend some money. It is your job as a man to pay. If you can’t afford meals for 2 and a movie majority of the time, then why are you looking for somebody to commit to you? If you can’t handle the title of being a man then sit back and keep messing with little girls and stay a boy. Women are going to school and landing careers, it doesn’t mean that they should start wearing the drawers with pee holes. I could make this a long post but I am going to keep it as:

Da_J_Rok
11-3-2009 3:28 pm
“I kinda get tired of this debate…

A real man never allows his lady to pay “PERIOD”

We all know certain situations may prevent this, but the majority rest for men being the man and providing for his lady”

DMY19151
11-4-2009 1:14 pm
“YES THE LADY/WOMAN CAN PAY SOMETIMES…ONLY SOMETIMES….WHAT THESE HERB ASS DUDES FAIL TO RECOGNIZE IS THAT IT’S A TWO WAY STREET AND THEY THINK THAT THEIR MONEY CAN BUY LOVE OR RESPECT….BUT WHEN SOME/NOT ALL…WHEN SHE USES YOUR ASS TIL THE WHEELS FALL OFF…THEN YOU’RE ON SOME OTHER TIP…SUCKER…LET A WOMAN BE A WOMAN AND A MAN BE A MAN…IF SHE WANTS TO PAY…LET HER PAY SOMETIMES….YOU DAMN HERB!”

DaintyJen
“Why is he messing with somebody that wants to go out and spend money frequently? Is it that hard to open your mouth and see if this person is even capable of negotiating? He like many people these days, is ignoring all of that and he chooses to empty out his pocket and be a goofy. Once again, take time out to know who you are messing with.”

” Me paying for a man to eat or to see a movie doesn’t show my independence. Me letting him pay doesn’t show that I NEED him for anything. Men= provider/protector. Its all one big “symbolic” thing and isn’t about “falling for the 1 that pays”. ”

“The fact that many men believe that they have to spend soooo much money is ridiculous and are as brainwashed as much as these females that are money hungry.”

By: MALIKLOVER

MALIKLOVER — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 03:18:13 +0000

woman plz
if you love your man you got his back with more than support boo
i cook clean etc. for myself so i dont need a woman for that
i need a woman thats willing to step up and do half on bills
and sometimes the dating too
50/50 not just look beautiful when we go out
you know the saying there is no i in team!

By: IndioLatino

IndioLatino — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:40:36 +0000

Well in my opinion, it should be discussed before any dating can occur. I made the mistake of not knowing the in one of my encounters. But if she’s a person that has that standard of letting the man pay then she’s just out to take your money and use you. I’ve been there. I went out with this one girl a couple of years ago. She invited me to go to the movies, I was like cool. She knew I didn’t have a job.. But I had a few dollars in my pocket. Any who, we approached the ticket line and she did not have enough money to pay for the movie. so i ask myself in my mind “why did she invited me?”. it was embarrassing. she went back to her car and took money from some area inside the vehicle. I wasn’t thinking at this point i said “oh ok cool she got some cash”. I had like 20 bucks in my wallet and she had like 6 dollars or some change. the funny thing was that we went back to the buy tickets, we together paid but i paid the most. but i said OK let me see if she will take the change, to test her, if i told her to keep it. and she took it. anyways, it was cool we watched the movie and all. the next day, i was calling her baby or whatnot on the phone then, out of the blue she said “only friends”. so basically it did not made no sense because she was so eagered and interested in dating me at the beginning. and obviously she was just using me for some type of interest. and it kind of funny she went back to her old boyfriend saying that i did not have nothing in common with her. and next thing you know, she dumps the dude again. she was very confused or something. i think she wasn’t confused i think she was just out to have some fun and experience thing that is out of the nature with her. life is kind of funny though. That was a lesson learned.

By: LiquidSluggz

LiquidSluggz — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:26:20 +0000

PanaNYGirl answer was the best and most simple and to the point…for those who didn’t read it…

PanaNYGirl
11-3-2009 1:43 pm

I agree with you. This is the 21st century and it’s hypocritical of women to say they are independent and then depend on men to cover all the expenses all the time. Just as much as we like it, they like being spoiled every once in a while. It’s just fair to meet him half way. Some men are raised like that and it’s all well and good, what woman doesn’t want to be taken care of but it has to be returned.

PERFECTLY SAID! Tricks are for kids and it IS trickin’ if you got it!!!

By: DaintyJen

DaintyJen — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:35:25 +0000

I heard that @ BrothafromChicago (I was wondering what happened to your page) and DMY19151