Everyone Commits Adultery
This is the first article in a series about adultery.
It’s another one of those Friday days. It’s the night that the weekend begins. It’s the day that the sunshine shines in. It’s another beautiful Friday.
It’s also the day that many people begin getting in trouble. They drink too much. Party too much. Or even indulge too much. But, oh, not I! I never get myself into trouble. I am never out of order. I never indulge too much. I never commit adultery.
“YES YOU DO!” says the Lord, my God. And, of course, I asked Him, “How do you figure that Mighty One?” You see during this select conversation with the Lord, I figured He could not trump me on this one. He knew me but I also knew me too. And, there has been no other but my husband. But, guess what? He knows me so intimately that God started to reveal to me all of the ways I commit adultery and what adultery really means.
Right! You are right! And, yes I do know that adultery means voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband. And, I do know that intercourse means physical sexual contact between individuals that involves the genitalia of at least one person. All those definitions come from the Merriam-Webster Dictionary.
But, see God’s definitions are so different. He looks at the world quite different than you or I. He looks at the inner man. He holds us to a higher standard than we would even hold our enemies. He wants those who are called according to His name and that of His son to be on a higher plane, a different playing field.
So what does this playing field encompass? What are the rules for this higher plane? How does God view adultery? In answer to that question, God does view adultery the same way as the Merriam-Webster Dictionary. And, He has the same view of intercourse that Merriam Webster Dictionary does too. But, God has a bigger view of adultery.
You see, adultery to God is anything that you do which interferes with His plan and purposes for marriage. And, of course that could be just about anything. But guess what? He actually has about 6 groupings for adultery.
For instance, the very first one is the love slash adultery thang. Yes, as mentioned above God does view you having intercourse with anyone besides your spouse adultery. He also views intimacy with anyone who is not your spouse to be committing adultery. Now get this being intimate with someone does not have to include intercourse. Did you hear me? I mentioned that getting intimate with someone does not have to include intercourse.
Intimacy comes in many different forms. Holding conversations with someone about your hopes, dreams, failures, and purposes in life is being intimate with that person. You are giving them insight into your inner being. And, giving someone insight into who you are at your essence is being intimate with them. Sharing your secrets, speaking about the failures or joys of your life is being intimate with someone. Enjoying hobbies, movies, new foods, and experiences with someone is being intimate. Planning trips, discussing finances, and even just spending time with a person is being intimate.
Now don’t jump on me here. I know some of these intimate things are just being friendly. But see here, being friendly to people who are not your spouse and going overboard will lead to adultery. You can have friends. But, when you begin thinking about the next time you get to be in that person’s presence, you have now found yourself in the throws of being intimate with another person besides your spouse. And, intimacy with others beside your spouse is committing adultery in God’s eyes.
Whew, that plane is definitely higher than one I would place myself or even my enemies, let alone my friends. Does this mean I can’t go to lunch with the people at work who are mainly of the opposite sex because I could become intimate with them and commit adultery in God’s eyes? Maybe it is. Do you expend all of your energy for those at work but not for your spouse? Would you rather go to that new restaurant with your work buddies than your spouse? Does your friend understand you better than your spouse? Then, you are in the throws of an intimate relationship with someone other than your spouse.
One thing I do know is intimacy and the feelings of it are the things that draw us closer to our mates. It is the thing that caused us to get married in the first place. It’s the reason we are on this path of marriage, especially God’s way, anywho. It was that drawing together of two souls, intertwining them, and seeing how perfect they fit that drew us to our spouse.
And, by the way, all of this intimacy talk is remind me that it’s time for me to get a little intimate with my honey. It’s time for me to listen to his hopes, dreams and cares. And, time for me to share with him mine. So, here I go. I am plunging into the intimacy pool. A little candle light, apple cider, and soft jazz is in order. The kids are in bed before bedtime. And, now it’s time to commune. So, all I can say to that is “THANK GOD IT’S FRIDAY!”
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LMFAO…don’t get married! Just don’t get married. The bible has GOD’s ten commandments, one of which THOUS SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY. If u can not adhere to it, then just don’t get married. Keep it simple. But keep in mind each individual ur having SEX wit, ur taking da russian roulette route to death. The Choice is urs…
I dont see how anyone can live their lives based on that very hypocritical Bible….It was written, edited and CHANGED by MAN..not God…I could not live my life by that book of ‘chance’, and ‘do what i say do when it suits ME”…SMH
i liked this very much…. i went thru tha same… tha talks lead to attraction… then the unthinkable…..
At Matthew 5:27 Jesus says, “You heard that it was said, ‘You must not commit adultery’, he goes on in verse 28, “but I say to you that everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Even though he speaks of a man having an emotional attachment to a woman, this scripture applies just he same to woman. The ‘looking’ is not referring to just a casual gaze or even an obvious gawk; but it is just like Sharnell said, the intimacy of your feelings. There are married people that have not had sex with other people, yet their heart belongs to another person. That is considered to be adultery. People limit themselves by getting caught up in sementics and applying the Holy Scriptures in a way to benefit themselves or their circ**stance. Even husband (or wife) commits adultery with a person who is not married; the other party is still committing adultery. Fornication is an umbrella term that houses “{…}adultery, homosexuality, prostitution, sex relations between unmarried individuals, as well as oral and anal sex and the sexual manipulation of the genitals of an individual to whom one is not married.” (See page 99 in the book, “Keep Yourselves in God’s Love” published by the Watchtower and tract society of Jehovah’s Witnesses). The term also applies to bestiality.
For the most part, I do agree with this article. But I think the title should have read, “Everyone of us has committed adultery at one time or another”. The word “commits” is present and there are people who do not lust after and have emotional intimate attachments to people outside of their spouses. So EVERYONE does not commit adultery, though most of us have had a wanton lingering. The moral is this, pay attention to yourself. If you are married and feel that there is no connection, you have a responsibility to try to diversify yourself enough for the marriage to work. Be patient and kind towards your partner so that even if they are hardened towards reconciliation, your mildness can soften them to some form of receptiveness. And please don’t forget to pray for your spouse and for yourself.
Cease from thine own wisdom – the Word is clear on the meaning of Adultery.
Mat 5:17 Think not that I am come to destroy the law, or the prophets: I am not come to destroy, but to fulfil. 18 For verily I say unto you, Till heaven and earth pass, one jot or one tittle shall in no wise pass from the law, till all be fulfilled. 19 Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven. {this lets ALL know the law in the old testament hasn’t changed/still stands, only the sacrifice of animals because Christ was the ultimate sacrifice}
Deu 22:13 If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her,
14 And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid: 15 Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel’s virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate: {this is how you married in the Most High eyes… to have sex is to marry! Not walking down no isle, marriage vows are found nowhere in the bible… that’s MANS law!}
Gen 24:63 And Isaac went out to meditate in the field at the eventide: and he lifted up his eyes, and saw, and, behold, the camels were coming.
Gen 24:64 And Rebekah lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Isaac, she lighted off the camel.
Gen 24:65 For she had said unto the servant, What man is this that walketh in the field to meet us? And the servant had said, It is my master: therefore she took a vail, and covered herself.
Gen 24:66 And the servant told Isaac all things that he had done.
Gen 24:67 And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death. {as ya’ll can see in verse 65 is where they get the vail from in these so called modern marriages that’s not according to the law of the Most High, now ask yourself… you think Issac was talking to Sarah in the tent?!?! To have sex is to marry POINT BLANK PERIOD, that’s why the most High says ALL COMMIT ADULTERY because people don’t seek him and find out his laws therefore having sex you marrying then commiting adultery and you don’t even know it… pick up the bible and read because it’s YOUR fault… it’s right there in your face}
Amen, amen, amen. Right on.
You know, I couldn’t explain that as clearly with all the education in the world. I am neither religious nor super conservative. This was on point.
Very insightful and it is right on the mark for all to understand. Lets consider the adultery that is committed toward God, in that, the spiritual adultery where we go on about our lives to do what ever we desire and only bring God in our lives when needed. Our lives are full of distractions, and yes marriage takes quality time to avoid adultery-it starts in the mind. If we have intimacy with God, then our mate and every one else will get the over-flow.
I REALLY AGREE.