The Reason Men Love Women Who Cook
I love to eat. Ask anyone who knows anything about me and they will emphatically confirm that. So it should come as no surprise that I, along with most men in the world, love a woman who can cook. There is just something so attractive and wonderful about a women who can create all the things that your stomach craves (and look good doing it).
Having expressed my love for women who cook, let me say I have nothing against those women who can’t cook. They’re alright with me. I highly doubt that, given two identical women, the only difference being their culinary abilities, that any man would choose the one who can’t cook. If you would choose the non-cooker, I must ask, “What is wrong with you? Do you not like to eat?”
(By the way, any woman tells you that she “doesn’t” cook, can’t cook. I’ve heard many a woman say, “Well, I could cook if I wanted to.” Sorry, I’m not buying that. Who doesn’t want to cook? If you could cook, you would, but since you “don’t” cook, I’m left to believe that you can’t cook.)
Why do men love women who can cook? Why do they prefer them over women who can’t? Is it because we like to eat? Yes. Is it because the cliché saying that, “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach,” is true? Definitely. Is it because a woman who can cook reminds them of their mom? Sure. But at the core of all those truths lies something simpler — men love women who can cook because it means that their family will be taken care of.
To say that men are simple creatures surprises no one — least of all women. But it’s true. We can be very instinctual and simple in our thinking. Men are designed to protect and provide. When it comes to our families (or future families), we want to make sure that our children have the basic necessities — food, water, shelter, etc. Oh, and love too. At an instinctual level, providing these things shows our love.
Think about a caveman — he goes out into the land to go hunt and provide his family with food and shelter and clothing. When he gets back home, he doesn’t want to have to call up the local Chinese spot and order some dinner because his wife can’t do anything with the buffalo he just dragged back. He feels comforted knowing that his wife can take care of their children by cooking a meal for them, providing nourishment for them so that they’ll grow into strong little cavemen and women.
Doesn’t the whole “woman in the kitchen” idea just perpetuate the male dominated patriarchal culture in which we live? It sure does. But that’s a discussion for another day; I’m simply presenting the idea that men, given the choice, will always choose a woman who can cook over one who can’t, and explaining why that is.
But isn’t it hypocritical to demand something of someone else that you can’t do yourself? Absolutely. I’m in no way suggesting that men demand that their spouses can cook (unless, of course, they can cook). I wholeheartedly believe that you should never make your mate (or potential mate) live up to any expectation that you don’t. Having said that, both men and women, if you don’t know how to cook, learn!
[Written by Stuart McDonald for Elev8.com. For more from Stuart, check out his all NEW personal blog, follow him on Twitter, and connect with him on Facebook.]
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Comments
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If men have to learn how to cook, women should learn how to fix things around the house…
You have to ask?
It’s like asking why women love guys who are providers…
If you can’t cook or don’t want to, you are no use to me…
Cooking says a lot about dedication, passion and sincerity… Not being able to or willing to learn raises a lot of red flags for me… No compromises…
And yeah, I can cook very well…
Not being able to cook will result in less money in the household going to restaurants or ordering food all the time leading to a larger propensity to catching dietary diseases… Not going to marry a woman who can’t cook… Sure we can be friends but she better not expect me to cook for her since she can’t and won’t cook…
i believe my husband just gets off on the idea of me slaving in the kitchen over a hot stove seriously.
i don’t cook and no, its not b/c i can’t. cooking is a chore and a bore. some people love it and treat it like a hobby. im the opposite of that. never have liked it, never will
My problem with this article is you sound like you would only be interested in a “cook”, not a “partner”. So what you like to eat. Who doesn’t? God bless you that you know how. Do it and shut up. You would penalize her for not knowing how, wanting to or even liking to cook. I guess it doesn’t matter that she’s good with the finances, has an outstanding personality, keeps an immaculate house, is good in bed, is supportive of you and can fix anything around the house better than you. You would say “Sorry hun you can’t cook, No deal”. GET REAL! Did anyone tell you that women have jobs outside of the home now???? When I get home from a full day’s work, your stomach is not at the top of my list………
I love all women…
…but…
…I really adore the ones that love to cook, do it well and often.
besides, I cook better than most of the women I know
So, there’s always sex
i can cook better then alot of women but if a female cant cook or wont cook, thats cool we can be friends
alright. if you read carefully, most of the things that are being complained about in the comments WERE MENTIONED IN THE ARTICLE. He did say that a man shouldn’t put expectations on a woman that he can’t live up to. I cook (and not to toot my own horn) very well. But in a relationship, just like my woman doesn’t want the “Duty” or “responsibility” of being full time cook, neither do I. If I’m hungry, I can cook for myself, but I also feed my lady. And she does the same for me. It’s a 50/50 situation. I don’t know what the author’s color has to do with anything, but he makes a valid point. Good article!!!
So when did men become handicapped in learning how to cook?
This article is very slanted in that BOTH sexes should have at least “basic” cooking skills.
1. Eating out (although I’m headed the vegan route) is great, but sometimes a home-cooked meal IS good.
2. Er…YOU gotta eat, right?
3. Honing your culinary skills is not a bad thing for when you have to hold down a dinner party and you’re serving 10 or more.
Starting to get it now?
Oh, and one more thing speaking of “cavemen.” Cavemen eat with their “paws,” therefore I’d have serious reservations about their culinary skills.
Men and women should both know how to cook. MEN: The more your know how to do around the house, the less wore out your wife will be and the more energy she will have for other (hint) activities. LADIES: The more needs he gets satisfied at home, the less tempted he will be to get them met elsewhere, including food.
Aww must be intern year anyways if a brother can’t cook then he needs to keep it moving because this sister does not cook unless she wants to and it should be equal.
I totally agree with you I_AM_BACK_4_MORE. When a woman knows how to cook it just adds to the flame. That’s all. A man should know how to cook as well. What if something happens to his wife. Or she gets sick and can’t cook. This article is stupid as well.
I cant wait till this writers does that piece on ‘why people like to eat..’ It should be interesting and full of insight.
LOL @ This author is white talking about cavemen….Lol why is a white author on here anyway
Let me get this straight, men love a woman who can cook because they love to eat? What sense does that make? The only thing in this article that I agreed with is “But at the core of all those truths lies something simpler — men love women who can cook because it means that their family will be taken care of.” However, I don’t think a man will turn down a woman just because she can’t cook. Also, men should learn how to cook as well. Woman in the kitchen while man goes out to work era is OVER! I know how to cook, and I could care less if my wife knows how to cook or not. We will still have food to eat, lol. And you said something like, women who cook remind a man about their mother. What grown man needs his wife/girlfriend to remind him of his mother? Don’t you know that when women get offended when they are compared to their boyfriend/husband’s mother? So I’m damn sure they wouldn’t want that. But, for real man, you’re doing a great job writing articles on here. Keep it up, and I’ll be reading.