Scriptures For Drawing Strength In Your Single Season
Scriptures For Drawing Strength From God’s Word In Your Single Season
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If you are single and reading this, you may be in a season of singleness characterized by bitterness, loneliness, and possibly fear that you’ll never find a suitable mate. I’ve been where you are, and I can relate. I know what it’s like to feel surrounded by many people but still feel alone. I understand what waiting and watching as others celebrate their engagement and marriage is like. I even know what it’s like to wait on a word you’ve received from the Lord years ago and still see no indication that the Word will come to pass. I understand where you may be at the present moment.
In your single season, I’m sure you’ve heard many misconceptions and lies targeted explicitly to singles that may make you feel insignificant or unworthy of love. You may have even encountered some seven steps to finding the one marketing scheme targeted at your insecurities, giving you the hope that their method will solve your “problem.” The issue with this is that these messages paint the picture that something must be wrong with you or that there is an area of your life that needs fixing, and until that is complete, your status will stay the same.
Over these 12 years of being single, I have learned that God’s timeline stands in the way of my heart’s desires being met; no superficial thing stands in the way of my desires being met. I am not a project that needs fixing, and neither are you.
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While there are many ways to navigate these emotions and misconceptions, such as therapy, biblical coaching, sharing within a safe community, and journaling, I’ve found that knowing and resting in scripture is one key and foundational way to find solace and hope in your season.
Among the fantastic attributes of God, one beautiful thing I admire about him is how intentional He is. Think about this for a second: God sent His Son into a dying word to share the Good News so that those who heard would receive it and come to the saving knowledge of Christ. If that wasn’t enough, He didn’t only leave us with the Comforter, The Holy Spirit, but He also left us with The Word. Biblegateway.com lists over 5,000 divine promises in the Word, a beautiful reflection of God’s commitment to His people. Of the 5,467 promises mentioned in the Word, I will share a few scriptures that have helped me over the past several years with the various emotions that have arisen in my single season.
Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things, God works for the good of those who love him and have been called according to his purpose.
This scripture has given me hope that because I love God, I can trust that His plans, in my singleness, are working according to a purpose that He knows is good for me.
Ephesians 3:18
And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is.
As singles longing for romantic love, we might misinterpret God’s delay in fulfilling our desires as a sign that He doesn’t love us. This scripture reminds us of God’s love for His people.
Psalm 56:8
You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.
It is beautiful to know that God sees every tear we have cried. He has witnessed the heartbreak and tears we cried over the relationships that ended, and he has recorded every one of them. This scripture encourages us that God lives up to His name, El Roi, the God who sees us.
Romans 4:21
And being fully persuaded that, what he had promised, he was able also to perform.
Waiting on the fulfillment of God’s promises can make you grow weary. Scripture says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” in Proverbs. One constant prayer of mine has been that God reassures me to believe in His promises. I consistently pray that God will reassure me that He keeps His promises. This scripture reminds me that God has the power and ability to actualize what He promises.
Sometimes, on your journey of singleness, you may feel that the promises God made you for your future family may never come to pass. There are times you may feel lonely, hopeless, and doubtful. While there are many ways to navigate these emotions, what has tremendously helped me is replacing the lies I believe about my relationship status and identity with the truth found in the Word of God. Be encouraged today to know that your relationship status doesn’t define you. Your singleness is not a problem that needs to be fixed by a 7-step solution. If God has promised you marriage or placed the desire in your heart, know He will fulfill what He’s said because He cannot lie. While you wait, surrender your desires to the Lord and find solace in one of the over 5,000 promises the Lord has made.
Sade Solomon is a NYC-based social media personality and multi-hyphenate creator who boldly and fashionably ignites authentic and candid conversations on topics surrounding intercourse, singleness, and abstinence. After embarking on her journey of abstinence in 2013, Sade began openly sharing her life-changing commitment on various online platforms while enlightening and inspiring many through her journey. In her book, Ready, Set, Wait, Sade peels back the layers of truth about navigating singleness and abstinence as a single Christian woman. Her work and commentary have been featured by Good Morning America, Harper’s Bazaar, Essence, Black Love, and XO Necole.
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